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Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Being centered brings balance in your life

by Pam Roth
When our children were young, we took them to a parade in a small rural town. In the not so far distance, we could see a tractor coming down the street. What drew our attention to the tractor was not just all of the clowns around the tractor; but that the tractor was going up and down as the driver tried desperately to keep the tractor in the center of the street. At a closer glance, we realized that someone had welded the axel off center on each of the wheel frames to cause the tractor to be unbalanced. When we see something like that in a parade, we laugh; but in real life…it’s not so funny.

In this illustration of the unbalanced tractor, someone had intentionally welded the axel off center on the tractor to cause it to be unbalanced. Are you like the tractor in the parade – struggling to be centered or are you choosing to live an intentional life that is centered and well balanced? So how do you get centered and stay balanced?

Unfortunately, most of us rarely take the time to pause, breathe and think about what’s working well in our lives. If you are like most people you would say, “There is just too much to do and not enough time to do it…let alone pause to listen, reflect and get centered.”

Practice listening:
  1. Stop what you are doing and take the time to listen – to God, to trusted friends, to a life coach or mentor.
  2. Find a quiet place where you can spend uninterrupted time alone to pray, meditate and listen.
  3. Be prepared to listen to your body. What are you doing to improve your health?
  4. Listen to how you respond to situations and others by keeping your emotions in check. Intentionally choose not to let circumstances get the best of you.
Reflect on what influences you:
  1. How do I respond to those that are in my circle of influence – family, friends, neighbors, co-workers?
  2. What or who challenges me to be a better person? Am I willing to make the changes that I need to make in my life?
  3. Am I growing in a deeper understanding of my own physical needs, emotional needs, and spiritual needs?
  4. Am I spending time reaching out to others?
Stay centered:

It takes a conscientious effort to remain centered. You must choose to bring yourself back to the center; and every time you do, you will find more balance in your life.

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  1. Loved this! The Heart of Worship should be playing while you read it!

  2. Very nice. Thanks for the words. God bless

  3. pam, have you ever read any of Ruth Haley Barton's books (thinking of invitation to solitude and silence). I think you'd really resonate with what her - love what you wrote. This kind of reflection does take time and it's not easy "work", but oh so beneficial. Hope to see you at Nelson's class reunion coming up in september.


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